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MY STORY ON FLAKING ON PLANS

I have flaked on plans in the past and at the time have loved how good it felt. I love how good it felt to flake on plans I really didn’t want any part of in the first place. Sweet relief! (But I swear, I really don’t do this often.) However, I’ll be the first to admit that my plan cancelling was usually the result of something that runs a little deeper than the desire to stay in my PJs and be lazy on the couch. In fact, flakiness — especially sudden-onset flakiness — can sometimes be an indicator of something going on with your mental health. So, whether you’re a chronic flake or it’s more of a once in...

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SOCIAL ISOLATION

We are all hardwired to interact with others, especially during times of stress.  When we go through a trying ordeal alone, a lack of emotional support and friendship can increase our anxiety and hinder our coping ability.  Forced isolation due to Covid 19 does not mean we are lacking any emotional support or friendship, however it is a stressful time worrying about what is going to happen or are my family safe.  This can cause depression and anxiety also. The Importance of Human Connection Yes, other people can be irritating. But they are also our greatest source of comfort, and an impressive amount of psychological research underscores the importance of human contact. Rejection by others psychologically wounds us more deeply  than almost anything else, and research by...

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Four Signs it is time to get out of your Relationship

Relationships require a lot of time, money, and most of all, emotional energy. When you have so much invested, it can be hard to let go, for reasons such as worrying about the impact on the kids, wondering if you have really put enough effort to work things out, or the fear of being alone and not knowing what your relationship future holds. However, when a relationship deteriorates, there is inevitably always a time when the damage has been done, and no amount of salvaging can save it. Knowing when to let go is key to being able to cut your losses, maintain your own mental health and well-being, and move forward to a better relationship which you deserve. Following are four signs that it's...

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How Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships

Trust is fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and will damage us and our relationships — sometimes irreparably.     We all tell “white lies.” We say, “I’m fine,” when we’re not, compliment unwanted gifts, or even fib that “The check is in the mail.” But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty includes allowing our partner to know who we are. Honesty is more than simply not lying. Deception includes making ambiguous or vague statements, telling half-truths, manipulating information through emphasis, exaggeration, or minimization, and withholding feelings or information that is important to someone who has a right to know, because it affects the relationship and deprives that person of freedom of choice and informed action. Although we may consider ourselves honest, few of us...

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