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MY STORY ON FLAKING ON PLANS

I have flaked on plans in the past and at the time have loved how good it felt. I love how good it felt to flake on plans I really didn’t want any part of in the first place. Sweet relief! (But I swear, I really don’t do this often.) However, I’ll be the first to admit that my plan cancelling was usually the result of something that runs a little deeper than the desire to stay in my PJs and be lazy on the couch. In fact, flakiness — especially sudden-onset flakiness — can sometimes be an indicator of something going on with your mental health. So, whether you’re a chronic flake or it’s more of a once in...

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SOCIAL ISOLATION

We are all hardwired to interact with others, especially during times of stress.  When we go through a trying ordeal alone, a lack of emotional support and friendship can increase our anxiety and hinder our coping ability.  Forced isolation due to Covid 19 does not mean we are lacking any emotional support or friendship, however it is a stressful time worrying about what is going to happen or are my family safe.  This can cause depression and anxiety also. The Importance of Human Connection Yes, other people can be irritating. But they are also our greatest source of comfort, and an impressive amount of psychological research underscores the importance of human contact. Rejection by others psychologically wounds us more deeply  than almost anything else, and research by...

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How Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships

Trust is fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and will damage us and our relationships — sometimes irreparably.     We all tell “white lies.” We say, “I’m fine,” when we’re not, compliment unwanted gifts, or even fib that “The check is in the mail.” But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty includes allowing our partner to know who we are. Honesty is more than simply not lying. Deception includes making ambiguous or vague statements, telling half-truths, manipulating information through emphasis, exaggeration, or minimization, and withholding feelings or information that is important to someone who has a right to know, because it affects the relationship and deprives that person of freedom of choice and informed action. Although we may consider ourselves honest, few of us...

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ONE BUDDHA TEACHING THAT WILL TELL YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF THAN ANYTHING ELSE

There are three main characteristics of Buddhism. Buddhism teaches that there are three traits of a person. They include no-self, impermanence, and suffering. No-self is one of their main teachings and it means that there is a separation between your permanent self (“I” or “me”) from what controls the body. When you look at your body and think that it’s yours, you’ve separated yourself in that moment. You experience a number of phenomenon’s that can be observed. Watching or observing all of the phenomenon’s around you can be done through your senses, such as your eyesight, hearing, touch, and smells. Or it can be observed mentally with images that you see in your mind. Once you realize that your reality...

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